There's a great reason why threesomes are every guy's ultimate fantasy. Threesomes are the sexual opportunity to have your cake and, um, eat it too. Twice the hands, lips, and tongues - it all comes down to getting twice the attention while satisfying your exhibitionist and voyeuristic fetishes.
However, ladies rarely take advantage of threesomes; they're still a sexual taboo. I beg to differ. Threesomes should become a trendy social event for the sexually liberated.
Whether threesomes involve two girls and a guy, or two guys and a girl (which is my choice because I'm selfish and love the attention), or three of the same sex, they're experiences worth having.
Threesomes expand your sexual horizons in ways you'd never imagine. They give you the freedom to try new tricks in an experimental setting, fulfill your fetishes and pick up new skills through observation. Your partners in threesomes will usually be more sexually liberated than your average crowd and can always teach you a new trick if you ask, or even just watch closely.
I'm fortunate enough to have a "dedicated threesome person" we'll call The Tongue. His alias should be uttered with superhero-esque pronunciation and awe. I would marry this man tomorrow for his tongue alone, not to mention his other skills and spectacularly sexy drunk phone calls at 5 a.m. When you get lucky enough to find a person for whom you'll drop everything to rendezvous with in the middle of the night, he or she deserves an alias that oozes sex and turns you on as you utter the first syllable.
My threesome experiences with The Tongue and Maverick (one of The Tongue's co-workers new to multiple-partner experimentation) embody everything that you should enjoy in a group sex situation, including the elusive three simultaneous orgasms. An ideal situation involves, in a sense, performing for the other people you're with. It's freeing to be totally in touch with your raw sexuality.
Comfort plays a gigantic role in reaching your sexual peak. If you're not completely at ease with a threesome situation, you won't enjoy the experience to its maximum potential. Before agreeing to a threesome, make certain you're comfortable with the premise and fully consider the repercussions. Will you be comfortable not receiving constant attention? Can you bear the thought of someone else observing your most intimate acts? If you lack sexual or body confidence, threesomes are not for you until you develop a better sense of your sexual self.
Another word of caution: You don't often realize until it's too late that you may become jealous of the other person. It's one thing to fantasize about threesomes. It's another issue entirely to see your boyfriend or girlfriend hooking up with someone else in front of you. If you're in a committed relationship, you absolutely must ensure that you and your partner are on the same page about trust and what you want to get out of exploring this new sexual frontier.
I'm not a possessive person, but I do occasionally get jealous. Unless you've participated in a threesome with your partner before beginning a full-fledged relationship, I highly recommend caution and talking about your relationship before bringing another person into the dorm room. This doesn't have to be a painful "where do we stand" talk; it can be as simple as just honestly asking each other if you're comfortable with exploring threesomes as an option to spice up your love life.
Also, it's crucial that you and your relationship partner discuss the threesome afterwards. This conversation should not be pillow talk. In order to be of value, it should be in a nonsexual situation. Honesty will be needed about what you loved, what skeeved you out, and whether or not you'd do it again.
But this isn't to say that threesomes have to be complicated - or even planned!
I had a surreal sexual experience at a club with two Army guys, both named Daniel. All clothes remained on, but the thrill of anticipation and no penetration really focused us on all of the otherworldly foreplay sensations.
Threesomes are one part porn flick, one part exhibitionism, and one part pure sexual gratification. You get to observe, perform, and scream with pleasure simultaneously!
Take advantage of what people brush off as your "experimental college phase" and soak up every bit of sexual pleasure you can. As for me, I'm just waiting for the next booty call from my designated threesome person.
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